The demon king hiranyakashipu had a child name Prahlada.
Hiranyakashipa hated Vishnu, the O in GOD; The Operator. Prahlada was a staunch
devotee of him. His father tortured his son for this and punished him daily. He
wanted everyone to worship him instead, just like his subjects do. Vishnu takes
the avatar of narshimha, the lion headed God. He kills the asura king but then
his rages against who were idolizing the
asura king and worshipping him instead of GOD (Generator, Operator, Destroyer).
Then Shiva the D in GOD, the Destroyer, creates rishabha, a crane to control
Narasimha but fails. Shiv then creates aparajita (undefeated) from his third
eye. She sits on the lap of Narasimha and absorbs all his anger and rage and calms
him down. Where even the destroyer failed to subdue the of a god a woman did it
with passion.
Bad men, violent men, anti-socials, they are sometimes seen
as revolutionaries, have historically caused more death, pain, and suffering.
It has been a strategy of the elites or those in power to send women to subdue
their competition, keep them busy, or divert them from a path that threatens
their position. This is seen often in Hindu scriptures, where suras (angels)
send extremely magnetic women to seduce asuras (demons) who are pursuing power
in a way that directly threatens the suras. Elites do this for their
self-interest. But what about those in the rest of the 95% of the pyramid? If
some or a few are threatening their existence and safety, who will send a woman
to subdue them? God? Nature?
It seems this tendency is built into many if not all women.
Women are often attracted to violent, antisocial, "bad boys," and
toxic men. These are usually those women who are driven more by youth, hormones
and emotion than by logic or rationality. Younger women, or those who have had
less experience in courtship are more likely to fall for such men than women
who are at the middle or end of their fertility. It is mostly girls who choose
bad boys and toxic men. If and when these men become civilized and nice, women lose
interest and move on to another target. What made them interesting, challenging
and attractive was no longer there.
These women are like doctors, who move on to the next
patient once they cure the current ones. So, the only way a patient can keep
the doctor is to not get cured. If the doctor is very good, they will see that
the symptoms are being faked; the doctor will slowly start disinvesting in the
patient and moves on to the next one.
This attractiveness toward toxic partners is referred to as
"hybristophilia”, a very frowned-upon behaviour. Many girls are heard
complaining about how most men are pigs, toxic and all are the same. A
condescending answer from many men is: "Why did you try so many men? You
are the one choosing these toxic men, so maybe there is a problem with
you." It is a heavily judged behaviour.
There is an African tribe where men with fat bellies are
seen as the most attractive because that is a sign of abundance and women often
choose abundance over other qualities. It is an evolutionary aspect of all
animals to ensure the best conditions for offspring. Everywhere else, men with
lower body fat percentages less than 20%, are typically preferred. If tomorrow,
by some miracle, we made all human females unattracted to toxic, antisocial
men, that would not stop such men from existing. These men exist not because
they lack women in their life; it is their natural state of being. They will
exist whether anybody wants them or not, often precisely because nobody wants
them or nobody wants them to exist.
It seems as if evolution has ensured an antidote for it.
Most of the time, just like a doctor treating a patient, these women who are
attracted to toxic men are like flies attracted to a light bulb. They can’t
help it. They will suffer, and many times perish too but by doing so, did they
fulfil their evolutionary purpose?
